Help right now
Someone I'm with is hurting or scaring me
FirstIf you're in danger now, call 911. When you can, call 800-799-7233 or text START to 88788.
You're not to blame, and you don't have to figure it out alone.
- If you're in immediate danger, call 911 (love is respect).
- Talk to an advocate at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, any time: call 800-799-7233, text START to 88788, or chat at thehotline.org (The Hotline).
- For teens and young adults, love is respect answers questions about dating and abuse: call 866-331-9474 or text LOVEIS to 22522 (love is respect).
- Advocates can help you make a safety plan that fits your situation (The Hotline).
- If someone might be watching your phone, reach out from a different device, like a friend's phone. Removing tracking apps can make some abusers escalate, so talk to an advocate first (FTC).
It's not your fault. You are never to blame for someone else's abuse (The Hotline).
Good to know
- Browsing history can be monitored and is hard to erase completely. If you're worried, calling may be safer than browsing (The Hotline).
- The quick exit button on this page leaves the site fast, but it doesn't erase your history.
When things calm down: Green flags and red flags
Sources
- National Domestic Violence Hotline The Hotline
- National Domestic Violence Hotline Plan for safety
- love is respect love is respect
- Federal Trade Commission Stalkerware: what to know
Last checked October 2, 2026 against the sources listed. See a mistake?